Sugar Dating Is A lot Of Work :(

Regular dating is already a lot of work too but sugar dating is worse. I have a date tomorrow but I'm gonna cancel it because I have a dentist appointment right before and I won't be able to make it in time.

The reason why I think sugar dating is a lot of work is because it takes a lot of effort to go through the trouble of driving somewhere to meet someone that I'm not that into, be forced to actually talk to them and make conversation when nothing is even guaranteed. Like it's not enough to just meet them, now I have to ensure there is "chemistry" and keep working it until the SD is willing to give me my allowance. No matter what happens I am NEVER going to truly like a SD. I don't have any respect for guys who are cheaters, which the majority of the SD's are, plus I don't have any respect really for a guy who thinks he can "buy" a woman. Back when I was making good money I actually DISLIKED men with money. I always thought they were more arrogant, had a sense of entitlement and thought they were hot stuff just because they had some money. Whoopdeedoo.

Actually, if I was looking for true love, I would never aim for someone who was super wealthy or rich. I have a theory that wealthier men are more likely to cheat because they have more options. Most men really are only as faithful as their options. I think that if you marry a wealthy man you WILL have the good life, just don't be surprised when your husband has ten mistresses on the side. That's not true love to me. I would rather be with a poor guy whom I really cared about. The reason why I'm getting into the SD thing is because I have no one, no boyfriend, no significant other PLUS I'm broke and in debt as hell.

I think I just kind of hate the world right now, or mainly hate most guys out there so I'm just going to see "what I can get out of it" for myself, but I can guarantee that I will never feel anything for these guys. That's why it's so much work for me. Ugh.

I suck at sugar dating. So far I haven't gone on one date yet. Mr Adult Play will want to meet soon I think. I don't know if I can go through with that either. Ugh.

For Valentines I didn't do anything. I don't care about Valentines day at all, don't celebrate it. I'm not the romantic, sentimental type. I don't get why some people are so needy that they can't even spend Valentines day alone but have to spend it with their friends etc. I feel like if you truly didn't care about V-day, then it wouldn't matter who you spent it with because it would be a day just like any other day, without any significance or meaning to it. For me, it's just another day and I could really give a rat's ass about it.

Still haven't found a job yet. This really sucks. I think looking for a job on-line is too competitive. I think people who post ads for jobs are probably bombarded with 1000's of e-mails and probably won't even read through all of them. It was much easier back when most people applied through the newspaper. Anyone have any tips on a high paying career yet? If you do let me know...

More Pots!

I have new pots in the works! I was putting all my eggs in one basket and just concentrating on Mr Adult Play but I don't know if I feel entirely comfortable with his deal. He is just looking for sex and "1 hour meetings" throughout the week. He even wrote in one of his e-mails "So what happens if we meet up and like each other? Do we just go off somewhere and fuc*?!" lol I told him I don't do it on the first date. This guy sounds like too much work for me. He also told me he is "well endowed" which I actually don't like. Me being a petite sugar babe, I like guys who are average etc lol I don't need a guy with a massive member pounding me to death. Too much work! lol

One of the other pots I have is an older guy who wants to meet on Tuesday. I told him I would go but I don't know yet if I have what it takes to go through with it. It depends on how I feel on that day, I might get too scared and back out :( He is comfortable with an allowance in the 1-3k range and emphasized he does NOT want an escort, which works out just great for me. I haven't had the chance to purchase a pre-paid phone or a trac phone yet so I feel a bit hesitant about giving my real number to him. I will try to get one tomorrow or monday. I don't want to give out my real number because I know anyone can do a reverse trace and find out my real name which is VERY unusual. I don't want my real identity linked to any of this!

Ok and another pot e-mailed from SA (also an older guy) and he is also looking for "afternoon delights" and he is also in my area. I told him to e-mail me photos and more info. I suppose a lot of these men are married and just want "afternoon sex".

I also made a profile at sugardaddie.com and so far I received 76 e-mails! A lot of those are "hot lists" notifications though and not actual messages. That site seems to have a lot more activity than SA. I can't read any messages though because I don't have a membership and don't want to pay $20. Is that site even worth it? It seems like a lot of guys there have low incomes, really low six figures etc. Sorry but that is not a sugar daddy to me. As broke as I am I wouldn't even bother with that... I need me some real sugar...

I really miss my fwb/bootycall "college guy". Messing around with him always felt comfortable and safe, like "comfort sex" I guess. I always knew what to expect and I always felt safe and never pressured to do anything. He was also a great kisser. I don't think I will ever feel that way about anyone else again.

It's Saturday night and I'm at home doing nothing. I have no life. I am going to do some work for my work/business at home. Then watch tv. Cook spaghetti. Browse more jobs on-line and apply. And that's about it for me. Sad life huh? Did the same thing last night too btw.

For all you sb's in college, do you mind posting what field you are studying/majoring in? I just need some ideas and I find it interesting to know what everyone is majoring in...

So, what do you think of this offer ?

I have only been talking to one SD through e-mail so far. I am thinking I may have picked the wrong one though. I am thinking he just wants sex only and nothing else. I am going to call him "Adult Play SD", because he told me that's the type of arrangement he is looking for, an "adult" one, meaning very sexual. I am ok if an arrangement is strongly based on sex, however, I don't want to feel like an escort though with one hour "meetings" twice a week.

He told me he would want to meet 2x a week for one hour each during the afternoon and then pay me 3k a month in allowance. I am pretty sure sex is expected each time. I am seriously broke right now and in danger of not being able to pay the rent and bills for the next few months... What do you guys think, do you think I should meet up with him and entertain the offer?

In a way I like not having to spend a ton of time with him. I don't enjoy traveling with a SD. I love traveling alone or with friends but the thought of going with a SD makes me uncomfortable. I also feel uncomfortable eating in fancy restaurants etc. So I suppose quick meetings twice a week would be ideal. I just don't want to head into escort territory!

I know some girls say "Well if you like him then go for it"! The only problem is that I don't like ANY of the sd's, I'm pretty much money motivated. If I had money I wouldn't bother with SD or dating anyone. I would be happy spending my evenings at home surfing the net and eating dinners by myself and watching movies by myself. I only got into this world because I'm broke.

I REALIZE that's not a good idea. I'm well aware of the fact that most SB's are NOT broke and have great incomes and don't NEED SD sugar but only use it to supplement theirs; a little icing on the cake if you will. And I realize most SB's genuinely like their SD's or like something about him.

As for me I'm in a bit different situation.

I just e-mailed him and asked him point blank if he was looking for sex only or if he wanted an arrangement based on anything else. I also told him point blank that I prefer not to do p4p because it would make me feel like a whore. I think he's fine with giving me a weekly allowance btw, I still think that combined with twice a week meetings of one hour is very "Escort-ish" like.

So what do you think of this offer? I have a strong intuition that the offer I outlined is heading towards p4p type of direction. I'm semi-desperate though. Do I take it? What do I do??

The Obligatory "About Me" And Things I like...

On every sugar blog I see people describing themselves a bit and mention a few of the things they like so here is mine. Hopefully this will put a more positive vibe on my blog because I realize I sounded really negative in my two previous posts.

I have long black hair with side swept bangs and I'm a shorty, I'm barely 5ft tall and I weigh around 90lbs... lol It sounds like I'm super skinny but I'm not, I'm just naturally really small boned and I have a tiny frame. I have plenty of meat on my bones. I would look a lot more fit and toned if I worked out but I'm just too lazy and depressed these days to care much.

I love makeup and clothes even though I'm broke right now so buying new clothes is not a priority for me. As for makeup, I have enough to last me for years so my face will still look good no matter how much poorer I get :) My favorite foundation is MakeupForever HD and Makeupforever Face & Body and I always apply it with the Sephora 55 hd brush. I always set my makeup with MAC MSF powder and Makeupforever HD powder. My favorite blushes are NARS and I always apply my blushes with a skunk brush (MAC 187) because the colors are so pigmented . I love Nars Deep Throat, Torrid, Orgasm and Luster. I also love Too Faced bronzers, they are really awesome for pale girls! As for glosses I tend to use MAC lipglasses the most and I will use my YSL Golden Glosses for special occasions. As for mascara I can use any kind as long as I use my Shiseido mascara base, it really makes a difference. I am obsessed with the site Makeupalley. I spend hours on there reading reviews and you can also swap makeup there which is great for me as I have no money right now. So if there's a particular blush I want I can just swap it for an item that I want to get rid off all for the price of just postage. That's beauty on a budget :)

As for clothes, I can't really afford to buy any new ones right now :( I do have some nice stuff that I purchased in the past when I was making good money. I have a few Nanette Lepore pieces, mainly silky blouses and tops that I love. I have a lot of Bebe stuff mainly because it's easy for me to find my size there plus their stuff is not very expensive. Well, it's expensive to me NOW because I'm broke but in general it's not as expensive as the more high end stuff but it still looks pretty glam. I used to do a lot of online shopping. My favorite retailers were reolveclothing and shopbop.

My favorite jeans are my J Brand 10" skinny jeans. I have three pairs and I wear them over and over and over! They look great with boots or with peep toe heels.

I think I need to meet the SD soon that I have been chatting with in e-mail. I don't want him to think that I'm playing games or wasting his time. I'm just very "scared" and nervous about meeting new people. I'm probably a lot more anxious than the regular person. I could really use the allowance too.

My favorite food is sushi, I haven't eaten it for almost three weeks now and I really miss it! I'm trying to save $! I love ordering sushi to go and eating it at home while reading blogs and forums online. That's my favorite thing to do; eat while surfing! I could get a SD to treat me to some sushi but I don't think I would enjoy it as much with him. I enjoy food the most when eating it alone surfing the net! lol Not when I'm stressed having to talk to some guy and wondering if I have food stuck to my teeth :( I actually feel a bit self-conscious eating in front of people.

I don't have a ton of girlfriends although I wish I did. Maybe I can meet some here through sugaring :) Some girls are probably put off a bit by me because I'm a bit negative sometimes; I don't want to get married, think all guys are cheaters and I feel very passionate about it so I will have a tendency to really want to prove my point. I think I also have problems making friends because I am so quiet and shy. I think girls either think I'm stuck up or really boring. I probably am a bit boring though. I can't help who I am, sorry I'm just not the life of the party!

I still haven't found a job yet. I have income coming in from my business but it's very low after income taxes and self employment taxes. I have been applying for office/admin type jobs, nightclub cocktail server, shot girl, jobs in affiliate marketing. Just about anything and I'm not hearing anything back! The only jobs I got a response from were weird ones in the "adult" section of CL hiring for a "sexy office assistant" for $20 an hour. I think these might be sugar daddy type ads. One of the guys said he was mainly looking for "eye candy" but the job was at night at his house! He wanted someone to assist him with internet research, take care of his pets, help with dinner.... WTF! Sounded kind of like a weirdo/really lonely person so I declined.

If you look in the adult section of CL and type in "office" you will find all sorts of strange office jobs that require a "sexy secretary", "must be open to pleasing the boss" etc, but they claim it also involves real job duties as well such as filing and data entry. Anyone have a clue what this is all about?

No Such Thing As A Happy Ending Or Fairy Tales

I have always had a negative attitude towards men ; "All men cheat" or "There's no point in getting married because you're just going to end up getting cheated on" etc and I think sugar dating will just make it worse since I am already SO jaded and cynical.

I don't believe in fairy tales. I never want to get married or have kids. I am older too, so it's not like I'm just 21 and saying this for shock value. I don't want to say my age, but let's just say I'm already out of my 20's :) I am not afraid to die alone. I've been alone for most of my life and don't have any girlfriends really. I know that I can't count on anyone except myself. If I were to fall I would have no safety net. If I don't make it in life then I might very well end up on the streets homeless; I have literally no one to "rescue" me, no one to pick me up, no family or friends for help and I'm proud that I have made it this far in life without falling yet.

I'm just afraid that Sugar Daddy dating will make me sort of "hate" men more than I already do because almost all of them are married. I don't understand why so many women want to get married. Your husband is most likely going to end up having sex with someone else on the side anyways. No thanks, I'd rather be alone.

One of the SD's I'm e-mailing wants to meet up soon. It's not a real date or anything, just a coffee date. I'm trying to postpone it for as much as I can. I hate blind dates and meeting new people, I have extreme anxiety just thinking about it and I can't drink to calm my nerves at all because I have to drive :(

I am really depressed, I need to find a job and it's so difficult right now. Does anyone have an idea of what is a potentially high earning career for someone who is poor in math and science? Unfortunately all of the high paying careers are all in engineering or medicine. If I was talented in those subjects I would go for one of those professions in a heartbeat. I can't even find a regular office job or receptionist type of position right now. It's so bad :( I'm so depressed all the time, I really miss the days when my business flourished and I didn't have to worry about money. I don't want to go into what type of business it is, but it's not profitable anymore and I'm unable to make it work today (it worked a few years ago). I was thinking of underwriting perhaps but I would need to get my foot in the door first by working as a loan processor but I can't find any jobs!

I hope I can find a SD who can hook me up with a real job. I have massive debts (not credit card related, something else which I don't want to mention on here) in excess of 20k which I'm making payments on :( I really regret not going back to school when I was making excellent money around three years ago. Back then I had money AND time. I really thought I was invincible and that my income would only go up and not down. I never imagined it would get to this point. I didn't save my money either, I purchased a luxury car (upfront with no payments) and bought a lot of clothes. I also lived in an expensive place and was throwing all my money away in rent. I've learned from all my mistakes and if I get a SD all my money will go back towards paying off my debt and living expenses, NOT clothes or makeup. I don't care anymore about shoes or clothes or makeup. I just need my basic expenses taken care of. I don't even want to dream about luxuries anymore, because that's all those items are now to me; just a dream :(

In my fairytale fantasy I would be with this particular younger guy (let's call him "CollegeBoy"), not an older SD. I love younger guys :) And I don't care if he is poor, I would be happy to be poor with him:) It's the truth. The only problem is that the younger guy that I am obsessed with doesn't feel the same way about me. He doesn't like me whatsoever (except for the sex). We're just each others bootycalls, we're not even friends. So since I can't have what I truly want and since I'm broke I decided to find me a SD. I really feel that if CollegeBoy would take me right now I would abandon all sugar hunting plans. I would give up everything for him, he just doesn't want me.

I've never had a bf who treated me well or bought me presents or gifts (not even for Christmas or my birthday). My ex was abusive and used to slap and choke me and on top of that we had terrible sex. So now I think if I'm going to give up some of my body to someone I might as well get something out of it. I pretty much have nothing to lose.

Sorry if my blog is so negative. I'll try to be more cheerful and positive next time. I'm just being honest when I write; it's how I feel and I guess I'm a depressed, negative person by nature :(

First Post , Do I Have What It Takes To Be A Sugarbaby?

I am slowly getting my feet wet into the sugar world. I'm probably not doing it for the right reasons (I'm broke and NOT attracted to older men at all) but I guess desperate times call for desperate measures. I have to be honest here, if I was still making the same amount of money I was around 2-3 years ago I never would have considered "sugar dating"; mainly because I'm really shy, introverted, I don't even date regularly (let alone sugar) plus I don't really enjoy meeting new people, it just tends to give me a lot of anxiety.

I have always been attracted to guys who are much younger than me. I have never been with or dated someone older than me. I just am NOT attracted to older guys at all. I don't care if they are more wiser, are more well-mannered, have more life experience etc. If that makes me a bit of a "whore" to be considering dating and potentially end up sleeping with someone that I'm not physically attracted then so be it. Labels don't bother me. Even though I prefer younger guys, for "sugar dating" purposes I will still aim exclusively for the older guys, mainly because I think younger SD guys will be more likely to be into pay for play etc. I just think an older guy is better for SD purposes even though I am not into them at all :(

I put a profile up on SA and so far got around 30 responses or so. I'm not sure as to the exact amount because I deleted a ton of them but it's probably somewhere around that number. I automatically delete people who type "What's up" and one liners. I also delete anyone from out of state. I am not into the whole sugar thing enough in order be traveling out of state just to meet someone due to safety concerns and because I live in the area of LA and OC and there are MORE than enough millionaires here, no need to go anywhere else. I guess I'm really picky, I deleted and ignored most of the guys. If they make around 200k a year etc, I also automatically delete them. I am looking for guys who are making at least 400k a year with net worth over 5 mil preferably.

I set up a new g-mail address to chat with the guys. I admit that I'm lazy about writing back. For some reason I don't feel very enthused about writing back to a 40-50 year old man, it's more like a chore to be honest.

What I'm looking for is an allowance. I am aiming for 2k a month because I feel that's realistic. I think 4k is a bit high and I don't need that much in cash unless it's in gift cards and/or gifts. I have already figured out that I prefer my allowance in either cash or a visa gift card (so that I can pay bills with it).

I prefer a SD that is married and has his own life. I don't want to stay overnight and prefer not to travel with the SD. I'm just not comfortable sleeping next to someone if it's not a real-life boyfriend and having him see me in the morning when I'm not all done up etc.

I'm also looking for someone to mentor me. I'm looking for a career change. I am a bit older actually and thinking about going back to school. I was considering nursing for a while but then I read that contrary to belief there isn't really a nurse job shortage and tons of nurses were complaining about being burned out and 12 hour shifts. Then I considered becoming a dental hygienist but I read on a career forum that a lot of hygienists were complaining about carpal tunnel syndrome and back pain plus having to work part-time for different dentists. Reading Babie Bow's blog made me flirt a bit with the idea of being a flight attendant, I just don't think I could deal with the stressful interview process and the 10 year federally mandated background check. They want 10 years of residence and work history with no gaps whatsoever! I used to move around A LOT when I was younger and I seriously don't have record of some of the places I stayed at.

I know that all the high paying careers are in science and medicine. If I was strong in math and science I would not hesitate to study to become a physician's assistant or chemical engineer etc, it's just that math and science are not my strong points. I am very weak in those areas. However, I do not want a degree in English or Political Science etc. I need something that will actually translate into a well-paying career. I was thinking of working in the IT sector and getting certificates such as MCSE etc but I don't know if I could get hired without hands on experience... ?? Teaching is stable but low pay.

I will need a full-time Sugar Daddy for sure if I go back to school in order to help me out with tuition etc. I just don't know what to do with my life right now.

To be honest, I don't even know if I am EVER going to end up meeting the SD I have been talking to via e-mail. I'm a scaredy cat. Meeting people (anyone) just gives me anxiety in general. I have pretty bad social anxiety. I don't think that's very conducive to SD dating. I'm not the type of person that just "goes for it" in life. I just tend to hem and haw for months before doing something.