I have only been talking to one SD through e-mail so far. I am thinking I may have picked the wrong one though. I am thinking he just wants sex only and nothing else. I am going to call him "Adult Play SD", because he told me that's the type of arrangement he is looking for, an "adult" one, meaning very sexual. I am ok if an arrangement is strongly based on sex, however, I don't want to feel like an escort though with one hour "meetings" twice a week.
He told me he would want to meet 2x a week for one hour each during the afternoon and then pay me 3k a month in allowance. I am pretty sure sex is expected each time. I am seriously broke right now and in danger of not being able to pay the rent and bills for the next few months... What do you guys think, do you think I should meet up with him and entertain the offer?
In a way I like not having to spend a ton of time with him. I don't enjoy traveling with a SD. I love traveling alone or with friends but the thought of going with a SD makes me uncomfortable. I also feel uncomfortable eating in fancy restaurants etc. So I suppose quick meetings twice a week would be ideal. I just don't want to head into escort territory!
I know some girls say "Well if you like him then go for it"! The only problem is that I don't like ANY of the sd's, I'm pretty much money motivated. If I had money I wouldn't bother with SD or dating anyone. I would be happy spending my evenings at home surfing the net and eating dinners by myself and watching movies by myself. I only got into this world because I'm broke.
I REALIZE that's not a good idea. I'm well aware of the fact that most SB's are NOT broke and have great incomes and don't NEED SD sugar but only use it to supplement theirs; a little icing on the cake if you will. And I realize most SB's genuinely like their SD's or like something about him.
As for me I'm in a bit different situation.
I just e-mailed him and asked him point blank if he was looking for sex only or if he wanted an arrangement based on anything else. I also told him point blank that I prefer not to do p4p because it would make me feel like a whore. I think he's fine with giving me a weekly allowance btw, I still think that combined with twice a week meetings of one hour is very "Escort-ish" like.
So what do you think of this offer? I have a strong intuition that the offer I outlined is heading towards p4p type of direction. I'm semi-desperate though. Do I take it? What do I do??
Thursday, February 11, 2010
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you are desperate.take it or work in an adult spa.i would take until better comes along.
ReplyDeleteThanks for commenting on my blog :) Working at an adult spa is not an option for me because I'm terrified of being busted by cops and getting arrested. If I were to be arrested my life would be over. I would also have to see a lot of guys. Benefit though is that I wouldn't have to go all the way. I am still terrified of being arrested though. I think a sugar arrangement, even a pay per meet one is a little bit safer.
ReplyDeleteYeah, well honestly I work in one and you have to be careful but yes SD dating is better.My co worker makes 2000 a wk but she goes all the way whereas I make 600 on a good wk just giving them a smile after the rainbow...LOL.Good blog,I need to set up mine better then i will link it.Ciao I'll be reading.
ReplyDeleteI look forward to reading your blog, please make sure to link to it once it's set up :)
ReplyDeleteI'd be very wary of a guy who said outright that he wanted p4p, and if I decided to meet up with him, I definitely wouldn't sleep with him the first day. maybe i'm super paranoid but i'd be suspicious of him being a cop, and nobody wants to get busted for prostitution.
ReplyDeletemaybe you can speak to him a bit more, and if you feel comfortable meet in person but just casually the first time.
Reluctantsugarbabe, it will definitely be casual the first time if we do end up meeting. I already told him straight out, no sex on the first date. I am also VERY paranoid about running into an undercover cop.
ReplyDeleteIs he decent looking?
ReplyDeleteIf you really need it that bad... do it !!